Athol has been frustrated about the Default Yes.
I wrote about trying Default Yes a while back, based on Mrs. Yes’s experience in 2012. It failed after a few months, and I believe I went into why, but I don’t remember the name of the post, so I’m gonna flesh it out again since it’s a hot topic.
A lot of ladies are suffering from overly-beta alpha-deficient husbands. Default Yes sounds good at first, especially if your marriage has been suffering from not enough sex. Especially if you feel guilty for that fact, like I have. I’m working on getting over it, really. But it’s easy to fall into that trap, thinking that if he has the reward, he’ll be more motivated to change.
But if he’s getting sexed up by a hot woman, why would he change?
Our failure wasn’t necessarily of that scenario… Captain M wanted to change. But by giving him sex whenever he wanted it, whether I wanted it or not, I wasn’t giving him a gauge of how well his MAP was running. It was like taking a long trip without being able to see the gas tank needle.
The idea is for guys to get so darn hot that their women can’t help but say yes. And I was robbing him of that and only causing more problems.
So that experiment failed. Don’t do it! It worked for Mrs. Yes, but I suspect that was because they were already coming from a good healthy marriage. If you’ve been having problems, it just doesn’t work that way.
(Speaking of Mrs. Yes, if you’re out there, I hope things are ok with you! We miss your updates!)